Catharsis?
Jun. 1st, 2005 09:59 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
tabular_rasaAlice, I hope you're not thinking I'm insincere and a hypocrite or something. I don't honestly want you to suffer, and I don't hate you . . . but from where I stood, you hurt me, and, well, I couldn't take it-- obviously.
Plus you wouldn't believe the pressure from all sides. I'm sick of advice.
I'm sorry for what Tiffany said to you. Keeping in mind that Tiffany does not apologize, on principle, I hope you can tell (she commented one last time on the Dear Alice post) that she really doesn't want to hurt you-- she's just sensitive and protective of me. I know you guys have some enmity I don't need to touch, but, well, I know neither of you has bad intent for the other. You don't really HATE each other.
Nothing ever comes at face value, ever. Everyone has a subtext to what they say, always-- and everyone else reads something subliminally in their words and actions, and often the two aren't interpreted in parallel. I see too much in Alice's video workings, and see it as an offense to me. I fear Alice reads too much into what people say to her in anger-- or, once again, I could be reading her subtext incorrectly. I read Liz's and Kristina's entries as proselytizing and preachy, and can't tell whether they're talking to me or Alice or to both, or what they're thinking.
If we think too little and speak on passion, we go farther than we mean and we offend. If we think too much try too hard to stay unbiased, we become blurred and vague and too easily ignored.
Are problems ever really solved-- or are they just forgiven?
There's a conundrum in being a pessimistic optimistic: I assume the worst in everybody, but I can't help excusing them for it-- and I never can give up on the hope that they'll turn out okay.
Plus you wouldn't believe the pressure from all sides. I'm sick of advice.
I'm sorry for what Tiffany said to you. Keeping in mind that Tiffany does not apologize, on principle, I hope you can tell (she commented one last time on the Dear Alice post) that she really doesn't want to hurt you-- she's just sensitive and protective of me. I know you guys have some enmity I don't need to touch, but, well, I know neither of you has bad intent for the other. You don't really HATE each other.
Nothing ever comes at face value, ever. Everyone has a subtext to what they say, always-- and everyone else reads something subliminally in their words and actions, and often the two aren't interpreted in parallel. I see too much in Alice's video workings, and see it as an offense to me. I fear Alice reads too much into what people say to her in anger-- or, once again, I could be reading her subtext incorrectly. I read Liz's and Kristina's entries as proselytizing and preachy, and can't tell whether they're talking to me or Alice or to both, or what they're thinking.
If we think too little and speak on passion, we go farther than we mean and we offend. If we think too much try too hard to stay unbiased, we become blurred and vague and too easily ignored.
Are problems ever really solved-- or are they just forgiven?
There's a conundrum in being a pessimistic optimistic: I assume the worst in everybody, but I can't help excusing them for it-- and I never can give up on the hope that they'll turn out okay.
