Writer's Block: Going the distance
Jul. 11th, 2011 07:27 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
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I'm going to in a month!
Though there are a few more reasons than that (: My life here was always going to be impermanent and I was going to move away anyway, so Robert just comes in with providing me the place I move to as opposed to somewhere else. And even if Robert weren't in the picture, I might have moved to California anyway (though probably not LA specifically) because there are more job opportunities for Japanese teachers and one of my best friends lives there and another might be moving there this fall.
Now, if I were currently living in a place I wanted to live permanently with a permanent job, well-established and settled friends, etc, and I had to sacrifice all of that to move, it'd be a much more difficult decision. I am a planner and not prone to rash decisions without a lot of logic backing them up, and I tend to resist change before I embrace it. So I would have to consider a lot of practical factors first. Had we been together long enough to justify this sort of risk in the name of commitment? Could I find work in my new home? Can I see myself liking the new place as well as my current home, and would I be okay living there if the relationship doesn't work out? Would he be willing for me as well, and I can be sure the only reason I'm moving instead of him is some practical reason like work availability (as opposed to dominance in the relationship, etc)?
I'm going to in a month!
Though there are a few more reasons than that (: My life here was always going to be impermanent and I was going to move away anyway, so Robert just comes in with providing me the place I move to as opposed to somewhere else. And even if Robert weren't in the picture, I might have moved to California anyway (though probably not LA specifically) because there are more job opportunities for Japanese teachers and one of my best friends lives there and another might be moving there this fall.
Now, if I were currently living in a place I wanted to live permanently with a permanent job, well-established and settled friends, etc, and I had to sacrifice all of that to move, it'd be a much more difficult decision. I am a planner and not prone to rash decisions without a lot of logic backing them up, and I tend to resist change before I embrace it. So I would have to consider a lot of practical factors first. Had we been together long enough to justify this sort of risk in the name of commitment? Could I find work in my new home? Can I see myself liking the new place as well as my current home, and would I be okay living there if the relationship doesn't work out? Would he be willing for me as well, and I can be sure the only reason I'm moving instead of him is some practical reason like work availability (as opposed to dominance in the relationship, etc)?