Writer's Block: Forgive and forget?

[tabular_rasa]

[Error: unknown template qotd]

I can forgive, but I never forget. Basically, once the issue is resolved (but it has to be resolved), I try to move on in my relationship with the person as if the offense in question never happened-- but I will be cautious never to leave myself vulnerable to the same offense again. I will bring up the supposedly buried issue with them if it becomes relevant again, too. The more intimate my relationship with someone, the less likely I am to hold an actual grudge; I'm more likely to nurse one against a stranger, an acquaintance, or a professor I see once a week than a teacher I see every day, a friend, or a family member.

Actually, I tend to hold grudges against things and abstractions more than I do people. If a commercial makes me cry or offends me, I will not buy the product. If I try out for a play and don't get a part, I refuse to go to see the play. And of course I am never doing business with Bank of America ever again.

Comments

[sidheblessed.livejournal.com]

I pretty much react the same way. I can forgive fairly easily when I receive a sincere apology but I find it hard to forget. I won't hold it against the person anymore but I will remember and the hurt will still be there when I'm reminded of it, through their actions or some other stimulus.